Mothered
"The Wounds Are Where the Light Enters You"
~Rumi
With Rebecca Lyddon, Motherhood Guide + Visionary
Enter Your Shadows, Mine Their Gifts
a Heroine's Journey for the woman
ready to walk deeper into their hearts, warmth, & power
For the woman
not willing to suffer any longer at the mercy
of patterns of disconnection & fear.
Mothers who are willing to dive headfirst into the infinite power of the
Great Mother within you,
& begin Mothering themselves & their families from depth, presence, & power.
You have met me in some of the hardest seasons of my life, navigating PTSD, motherhood, 2 children, and so much internal overwhelm. Grief, anxiety, uncertainty, complicated family relationships, self-doubt, and very little trust or compassion for myself.
Over these months, I have made breakthroughs in how I show up for myself, with my children, in my relationships, and with my parents.
I now see the ways I abandon myself, the ways I let other voices overpower mine, the ways I hide behind being capable and easy and “fine,” and the ways I make myself smaller because I am scared that being fully honest might cost me connection.
I have been brought me back to myself.
You helped me find my way back to myself when I genuinely could not see the way clearly on my own.
Shruti, Mother of Two
Who this is for
You are a conscious, intentional, deeply loving woman, a devoted mother, and still, you cannot fully relax into the
delicious mystery + holy unconditional love that is right there in your heart.
Because you are still controlled by old, old habits you needed to develop from the very beginning.
With your family, you have reached a connection ceiling. you are technically THERE physically in the moments with them, but mentally & emotionally you find yourself hovering slightly outside the moment ... present yet performing presence rather than inhabiting it.
Maybe, secretly, you are resentful. & way more empty than you'd ever let on. Maybe you're finally getting honest with yourself about little you actually trust you, even though you appear super confident.
The cosmology behind this work
You get to exist.
MOTHERED will guide you into your underworld: your emotional power, your connection habits (especially the destructive ones!), you spiritual longing, and your foundational sense of existential worth. (yup, no big deal!).
Because a woman can do everything right on the outside and still feel a quiet ache on the inside. Like she is waiting to be fully let in to her own life. Still feel the particular loneliness of someone who gives beautifully, yet struggles to extend that same generosity, mercy, grace, & goodness to herself.
Three Paths
1. MOTHERED, Solo Journey
The full curriculum, for life. Move at your own pace, dip in and out as is supportive. Gentle audios, guidebooks, and guided meditations. And you can always connect with me and drop in for a personal session, should a deeper need for support and integration arise.
Once you purchase, you will receive your next steps to log in and receive your online program!
2. MOTHERED, TOGETHER
Everything above, and you are not walking it alone. Six months in the Self~Mothering Circle, twice a month, with Mothers moving through the same gates and committed to the same practices. This is where you get to practice what you're learning in the relational field.
**ALWAYS ENROLLING!**
3. MOTHERED, TOTAL IMMERSION
Everything above, plus twelve one-to-one immersive calls with me. Your own shadows and your longings, entered and mined with a guide beside you, through the full map.
"Already, in two weeks, I have been able to meet, love, nurture, and protect myself at a depth I didn't have access to before. As someone who actually teaches other mothers how to love and nurture themselves, I didn't realize how much I still need that for myself."
Chantelle, Mother of three
Your next initiation is calling.
All that work you have been doing for your children? You're being called to the next gate.
Because the Well-Mothered Woman can
She Can Feel
True love. True mercy. True spark. She can stay with her pain, her shame, her grief, her fear. All that skill she brings to her children? She can feel the full range without fragmenting. She can feel the love that she is.
She Can Enjoy
Her children and family. She can expand past inherited limitations of HOW GOOD family can truly be! She can genuinely delight in her life, even when it's a hard, hard season, with unhurried presence. She is inside the moment rather than watching herself from a slight distance.
She Can Believe
That she is fundamentally good, worthy and deserving. Of existing! Of being alive! Of being a mother! Of being in a becoming process! That her presence is a gift. That she deserves the same tenderness she has been giving to everyone else.
We will walk through all Twelve gates together.
One · Clarify & Connect
Discover which habit or pattern you want to focus on transforming, evolving and maturing. connect with the Great Mother Archetype, that will hold you as we move through the deeper layers. Clarify how the Shadows of the Great Mother archetype are alive in your life and relationships.
Two · Descend & Face
Face the Shadow and relate with each with both compassion and curiosity. The Great Mother archetype will continue to build and strengthen to hold your transformation.
Three · Develop Skill, Integrate, & Rise
With greater connection to your full self, commit to strengthening and refining your relational skills, both internally and externally. How does deepening internally and anchoring into greater trust and mercy play out in your moment to moment exchanges as mother, wife, and woman?
My life, and my family’s, has changed. I have faced my fears and my childhood. I now see patterns I'd been carrying that were leftovers from painful times, not who I am today. That awareness has made me calmer, more present, and more myself with the people I love.
My husband and our kids feel the difference too, and our home is warmer and more connected because of it. I'm so grateful for the work we did together and for giving me the chance to open up and be an unchained version of myself.
Christine, Mother of two
How We Work Together
The Four Directions of a Well-Mothered Woman
One continuous homecoming
North
Exquisite Presence
Your beautiful body, your female nervous system, tiny attunements. Learning to inhabit yourself rather than hover outside your own life, constantly on the offense.
South
Open Heart
Feelings, emotional needs, grief, shame. Learning to feel your own feelings with the tenderness you bring to your children's.
East
A Loving Mind
The archetypes of your psyche. The Inner Loving Mother. Voice work. Learning to love the way your brain keeps you safe from emotional honesty, vulnerability, & maturity
West
Strong Hands
Practical skills, repair, parenting tools. What all of this looks like in the real daily life of a real mother, spouse, and community member.
How We Work Together · Four Directions · Twelve Gates
Module 0: The Call
Gate One: Sovereign: Reclaiming your choice, your freedom, your autonomy
Gate Two: Mothered: Connecting to the Great Mother Archetype
Gate Three: Longing & Receiving: Longing as feminine spiritual power
Gate Four: Belonging: Belonging, significance, to deeply matter
Gate Five: Held: Learning to nurture and nourish your vessel
Gate Six: Protected: Sacred rage, lifeforce, self-protection and necessary primal aggression
Gate Seven: Felt: Learning to feel without fragmenting
Gate Eight: Recognized: How to truly see yourself beneath the masks and personas
Gate Nine: Guided: Learning to trust your decision making and your desires
Gate Ten: Heard: Speaking from the feeling. Being genuinely known
Gate Eleven: Forgiven: Receiving the forgiveness you have been withholding from yourself
Gate Twelve: Becoming: Not arrived nor finished. Consciously, devotedly in motion.
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Our Mission
Over twelve weeks, we tend to four territories.
Four directions that together make up the whole of a woman's interior life. We are not goal setting to get somewhere but showing up to be exactly where we are.
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Tending Our Animal
The body holds the imprintings, shapes, and behaviors of your emotional, sensory, and psychological past. Here we learn to recognize, inhabit, and listen to the animal. Expand your ability to experience your aliveness and develop a secure bond, plus unbreakable trust with yourself, your decisions, and your nature.
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Anchoring Into Our Heart
Get to practice the raw real art of feeling. We will develop a powerful capacity to feel without being destroyed by feeling. We will practice riding the pain wave and developing emotional freedom.
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Strengthening the Self
Constructing identity from the inside out. Coming to know who you actually are, what you actually value, what you actually need, and learning to honor all of that even imperfectly, even in the beautiful, relentless chaos of motherhood.
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Choosing Practice
Concrete, repeatable, and small. The daily acts of turning toward yourself: tiny attunements, practiced again and again.
Meet your guide, Rebecca Lyddon
I have been where you are, and I am still traveling...
This work is incredibly personal to me as I spent most of my life being a deeply feeling woman who had no idea what to do with her feelings, who had been taught, through the way she was mothered, that her interior life was too much, too inconvenient, too messy to be witnessed.
I became a mother at twenty-three and was motherless in every way that mattered. I conceived life with a man I had known for a very short time, thrust, alone and exposed, into the grandest ecstatic initiation of my existence: becoming mother.
For years I was doing exactly what you might be doing right now. Building an extraordinary external practice of conscious living, relating, and mothering, while my inside was quietly starving.
I swallowed and mastered the theory. I did the rupture and repair dance daily. I was doing "the work." And I still could not land inside my own life.
A few years ago, at the height of my career, I almost lost everything. I hated myself. So profoundly that I begged God to either fix me or take me away. My soul was exploding and my body was breaking down. I had no more choice but to learn how to be here. Truly. Not hide behind science, fixate on my partner's shortcomings, become violent toward my son, feel estranged emotionally from my daughter, search for love and belonging anywhere other than my reality.
I built my way back. I got out of my head and into my heart and spirit.
Through the years I have met the lowest lows and the highest highs. I have come eye to eye with the excruciating belief that I was undeserving of my children. I know these thresholds well. I stand before you and declare: you can have this too.
I am a mother of three with thirteen years of motherhood beneath my belt. I have worked with over 3,000 women and mothers. I bring to this container 16 years of somatic practice, under my teacher Laura Martin-Eagle. I served as the Director of Education at the Jai Institute for Parenting for 7 years and created their world-class parent coach certification program, I am trained as a Social Worker with a certification in Early Child Waldorf Education.
This program is what I gathered by traveling the gates myself. Now I am passing on the call.
This has allowed me to truly embody and take in everything I have learned for years now...I can actually apply and use it. I can be with my emotions, I can cry, I can release, I have a lot more awareness of what is going on in my body.
Mariana, Mother of two
Questions women actually ask
What is the difference between the three options?
The map is identical, so the only difference is who is walking it with you. MOTHERED gives you the whole curriculum to walk alone, for life. MOTHERED, Together, adds six months of Circle, so you are practicing it in a relational field rather than in your own head. MOTHERED, Immersion allows you access to twelve private intensive sessions.
Can I start at one path and move up later?
Yes, and many women will. You can reach out to Rebecca anytime when you are ready and what you have already paid will be deducted. You will arrive already knowing the map, which means we spend our time on you rather than on orientation.
Will the curriculum be enough on its own?
Honestly, for some women, yes. For some, no. If what stands between you and your life is that nobody ever gave you the map, the content and the personal exploration will serve you significantly. If what stands between you and your life is that you were left alone with too much, too young, then what changes it is another nervous system in the room, repeatedly, over months.
I don't struggle with parenting perse; it's more my connection to self. Is this still for me?
YES.
I have done years of therapy. Why would this be different?
Because you do not have an understanding problem and can probably explain your childhood (and every member of your family) detail by detail. Understanding is a thinking‑brain activity, and this work penetrates what you don't know you don't know.
I am not really spiritual. Will the Great Mother language put me off?
This is not necessarily 'spiritual' if you do not want it to be. It can be experienced as connected with the imagination and the mythic.
I am already exhausted. Is this one more thing?
A daily practice smaller than you are imagining. If the work adds to your load, it is the wrong work, and I will say so.
If I go with the community option, what if I miss a Circle?
You may miss some! That is okay. You will watch the recording. There is no such thing as behind here.
Is this therapy?
No. I am a Mother Circle Facilitator, Certified Parent Coach, and Social Worker. I guide depth explorations. I am not your therapist and this is not treatment.
I have already spent a lot of money on this kind of thing. I feel guilty and concerned about this not working.
I understand that concern. I am confident this program will be a resource of warmth and wellness no matter what.